Mild Amusements

From Reddit: Why Do Men Keep Putting Me in the Girlfriend-Zone?

Mon, 20 May 2013 17:02:37 -0500

You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.

But then, then comes the fateful moment where you find out that all this time, he’s only seen you as a potential girlfriend. And then if you turn him down, he may never speak to you again. This has happened to me time after time: I hit it off with a guy, and, for all that I’ve been burned in the past, I start to think that this one might actually care about me as a person. And then he asks me on a date.

I tell him how much I enjoy his company, how much I value his friendship. I tell him that I really want to be his friend and to continue hanging out with him and talking about our favorite books or exploring new restaurants or making fun of avant-garde theatre productions. But he rejects me. He doesn’t answer my calls or e-mails; if we’d been making plans to do something before this fateful incident, these plans mysteriously fail to materialize. (This is why I never did get around to seeing the Hunger Games movie. Not to name any names, but thanks a lot, Tom.) Later, when I run into him at social events, our conversations are awkward and lukewarm. This is because the moment we met, he put me in the girlfriend-zone, and now he can’t see me as friend material.

I must say that I find this really unfair. I mean, I’m a nice girl. I have a lot to offer as a friend, like not being a douchebag and stuff. But males just don’t want to be friends with nice girls like me. They can’t help it, I guess; it’s just how they’re wired, biologically. Evolution conditioned our male hominid ancestors to seek nice girls as mates and form friendship bonds only with the other dudes that they hunted mammoths with. It’s true—I know this because I studied hominids in my fifth-grade science class.

So what’s the answer? Should I take up mammoth-hunting in an attempt to appeal to the friendship centers of men’s primal lizardbrains? Should I keep making guy “friends” and then prevent them from making a move on me by subtly undermining their self-confidence? Should I just give up on those manipulative, game-playing, two-faced bastards once and for all? I don’t know. I mean, I’d really like to have a true friendship with a guy someday, but it’s so hard to trust and respect them when they never say what they mean—and you never know when you might be relegated to the girlfriend-zone.

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I seem to have misplaced my pants.

Fri, 17 May 2013 09:16:33 -0500

I seem to have misplaced my pants.

thatcheshirecat: thavron: a-cumberbatch-of-cookies: the-potter...

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:49:38 -0500

thatcheshirecat:

thavron:

a-cumberbatch-of-cookies:

the-potter-tardis:

theannieplanet:

im laughing so hard

it’s funny because we all know who this is about

I’m combining two of these. I’m now calling Ben BUMBLEBEE WAFFLESTICK and no one can stop me.

Butterscotch Crumblycake from now on

Bumperstump Cabbagepatch is my favorite actor!

areyoutryingtodeduceme: dochuu: let me explain u a thing...

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:42:44 -0500

areyoutryingtodeduceme:

dochuu:

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OAKENWHATEVER

doctorwho: Neil Gaiman on re-writing Doctor Who: Clara was...

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:41:20 -0500

doctorwho:

Neil Gaiman on re-writing Doctor Who: Clara was originally going to… Radio Times

“The original companion was going to be very much the Victorian governess we saw at Christmas,” Doctor Who writer Neil Gaiman told Radio Times, while discussing the genesis of his most recent story, Cybermen vehicle Nightmare in Silver.

“Doctor Who has its own peculiar way of being written, so I started writing it about 14 months ago. I wrote about the first ten pages and then they said they’d changed the companion from what I was expecting to something else.

“We decided they can do more weird stuff if it’s now the contemporary third incarnation so I had to reshape it so it wasn’t the governess.”

Read the rest at Radio Times.